Budgeting that Works when you can’t Stick to a Budget
- Humairaa Moola
- Apr 14
- 8 min read
Budgeting personal finances seems straightforward, but many struggle to stick to a budget. In this guide, we'll explore eight stages to help you overcome budgeting challenges and discover methods that work for you.
1. Why Can’t I Stick to a Budget?
To answer that, let’s start with a different question.
How did the word “Budget” make you feel? What were the thoughts and feelings that came up as you typed that search term in and asked yourself the question?
My money is on your internal response being negative. If the word budget excited you, you’d already be making it stick, because it’s a positive, because you’re motivated to, because you are gaining something from it.
It’s those of us who feel dread, fear, anxiety, scarcity, guilt, shame or have had past failures that are still haven’t succeeded. The concept of a Budget can make us feel controlled, that we have to “do without” or deny ourselves. Or it shines a huge spotlight on our feelings of not having enough and the feelings that accompany that. It is those feelings, thoughts and past experiences are the very reason we can’t make or stick to a budget.
It is not about the numbers, the maths or the money. It’s about the association we have with what a budget means to us. So take some time to acknowledge your thoughts and feelings, they are valid, and the numbers come later.
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2. Re-frame your Budget to a Spending Plan
What is a budget really for? It is to channel the right amount of money, to the right thing at the right time. It is not a ‘money-diet’ but a healthy living plan. It is a Purposeful Spending Plan.
The purpose is really important. It helps you prioritise, and make decisions and choices on when and what you spend your money on. It clearly defines what’s to be spent soon and what's later. What is for monthly outgoings and what is for bigger financial goals? What gets spent today and what is saved and invested for enjoying later.
Now you have choice rather than external control, internal motivation rather than aversion, positivity rather than denial or lack. Your spending plan is about gaining, not losing, growing not shrinking and you have an outlet for your spending. You’ve put Yourself and Your reasons at the centre of your money plans. This also reduces the likelihood of unplanned or emotional spending undoing all your hard budgeting work later in the month.
Admittedly not all spend is a complete choice. Some things in our spending plan we have less choice on, the essentials, our needs. That’s why I start with that. But before we delve into the needs and wants, let’s remove another obstacle.
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3. Balance your Budget Honestly
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This next step is where some of us get stuck. The thought of facing the next part – the actual numbers can feel fearful, boring or overwhelming. So we decide we can’t, won’t or don’t want to. Then we don’t do it. If you’ve got this far, keep going. by doing nothing, nothing changes.
4. Categorise Needs and Wants
Understanding the difference between your needs and wants will help you prioritise your spending. Whilst needs are generally those that you cant survive without, there is a subjective element too.
For example, I need to swim. It might be seen as a want as I would survive without it, but it keeps me sane, it makes me feel better, it helps me manage the onslaught of life. However, if push came to shove I’d not swim to pay my mortgage or bills.
As easy as A, B, C
Here’s a straightforward A, B , C method you could use as a starting point for identifying your Needs and Wants and the cost of them. (Hint I do this Annually not Monthly then divide by 12, that way I don’t miss the annual bills and subscriptions.)
A is essential outgoings. These are the outgoings that you will always have to pay regardless of what happens in life, income, or work. such as mortgage/rent, utility bills, agreed minimum debt repayments and monthly food shopping. If you need a car and fuel to earn your income they’d be essential too. These are needs.
B is important to spend. These are the things you like to spend on, add value or purpose to your life and whilst you could go without them, they would make life less healthy or enjoyable. These are likely a mix of needs and wants and will be specific to you and your family. A regular amount for saving and investing would go here if you haven’t already included it in the A category.
C is luxury or extra spend. These are the nice to have, the wants and luxuries that you would love to spend on when there is the money. Holidays, eating out, high-value spend, experiences. Spending in this category is the lowest priority for a monthly spending plan.
Now is the time to make a note of all of your income.
5. Track (or Plan) your Spend
You can do the above method on a blank sheet. Simply write everything out, which category and decide what amount you need or want to spend on it. Be mindful of any tendency to under-estimate spend as mentioned earlier and be brutally honest.
Alternatively, work backwards using existing bank statements or let one of the many finance apps do some of the work for you.
6. Choose a Spending (Budgeting) Technique
You now know your income. You know what you need to and want to spend and have it grouped into categories. You also know what amounts you either have spent or plan to spend within each category.
Check your Income first versus your Category A/ Essential Needs. Are they balanced? Is your income enough to cover these? If not, and you are running into uncontrolled debt, seek professional advice. Look at ways to increase your income and identify whether any savings can be made on those outgoings by switching, changing, or moving. Repeat the above for category B Needs.
Budget Planners
You manually record on paper or spreadsheets a line-by-line incomings and spend. You can use the information you’ve used from previous bank statements of finance apps. We all learn and do things differently so give these a go if you like the details and accuracy.
Zero-Based Budget
With zero-based budgeting, you start from scratch every time you review, probably monthly. Rather than look at what’s been spent historically or stick to an annual or master “plan” you allocate proportions or amounts of your known income into categories based on your changing goals.
You aim to categorise 100% of your income into the relevant categories (including savings and debts) This plan can change every month or year, so the budget is prepared from scratch every time. This can be time-consuming and you can get caught out with annual expenses unless you’ve saved to allow for these from the monthly budget in anticipation.
Envelope (cash) Method
Not dissimilar to the zero-based budget this old style (think my Grandma!) but the increasingly popular method works well to create clear categories, enforce discipline and make your spending very tangible as you can see and feel every penny being spent and visibly see when it has gone. This is a cash-based system though so can be a little trickier if you have several online bills to manage, but not impossible.
Again you allocate a spend against a category. You then physically put that amount of cash into an envelope marked with that category name. The rules are you can only spend what’s in that envelope against that category and when it’s gone it's gone, until next month when you top it up again. You need to be clear on your essential (category A) first and assign reasonable budgets to other spending categories.
7. Money Funnel or Proportional Method
These methods work in % rather than currency. You set a specific % go towards savings, spending (needs and wants), investing and gifting.
A proportional method can be a good way to start if you simply find facing the details too much today. But refine it before long because your goals, purpose and spending may not match the proportions given. All income gets split into 3 areas in set proportions as soon as you earn or receive it.
50/30/20 Model
50% goes towards Needs (category A) 30% towards Wants (Category B) and 20% toward Savings for Financial Goals.
70/20/10 Model
70% goes on Needs 20% on Saving and 10% on Giving (or Debts if they need clearing first)
Flexible Money Funnel
Rather than following prescribed proportion, try a flexible model where you will vary the % as your goals and plans change.
Every penny I make, earn, grow or am gifted goes through my imaginary “Money Funnel” and the key difference is the first proportion is always automatically to Savings (and then investing). Always first.
I know I can manage on less (because I have done in the past) and I now know how much my needs/wants are and what proportion of my income that is. So I can adjust the savings, investing, spending and giving to match my longer-term financial goals.
This took many tries to find what worked best for me. What works for you may be different and there is no one size fits all. So try a few and refine it as you go to suit you and your family’s needs.
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Now what? This isn’t a stale document, dusty planner or never-to-be-opened spreadsheet. Your spending plan or method is your tool to help you enjoy your money and direct it to the right things for you.
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You now know what you are spending, where, on what and how much. This is your spending plan and you can shape, change and influence it to work for you.
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